4 Ways to Support a Loved One Through a Tough Time Without Overwhelming Them


This is a rough post, based on current life experiences. I hope you'll read it despite the fact that there is no fancy header image, or any images at all really. It is important!

If you know someone who is going through a tough life experience (illness, loss, etc.) and you really want to be supportive, one of the best ways you can do that is listening to them when they tell you what they want/need. 

Often times, in our need to feel helpful, we sort of assume what people need. For example, you think a visit might be in order, but they say they are not up for company. Listen to them. Do not go on and on about why you think they need a visit and then just steamroll your way into a visit anyway. 

There are ways to be supportive to loved ones without being right their side. Here are 4 quick suggestions to let someone know you are there for them in their time of need without making them feel overwhelmed.   

1. Send them a text message.  

2. Give them a call. 

3. Reach out via video chat (ask if they are up for it, first).

4. Send some snail mail- a greeting card, a letter, or just a quick note.

While your actions are likely coming from a place of love, please remember you are trying to make things easier for your loved one. This means, as counterintuitive as it might feel, your beliefs on what they need do not take priority over what they are saying they need.