One of my favorite movie quotes is "I bet if we ran into the 6th grade versions of ourselves right now, they would kick our asses all over the place and put bubble yum in our hair for even thinking about doing this." The quote is from the 2002 film, Mr. Deeds. This specific line is delivered to a group of stockholders in an attempt to get them from siding with "the bad guy" to sell the large company-which would be hugely beneficial to the stockholders, but cause the people who work for the company to lose everything.
The line is funny, sure, but it has always struck me as a bit poignant. Especially since I can apply it to so many of my own life's choices. Especially as I get older. Especially as I lose loved ones and people I grew up with.
I love my life now, it's pretty amazing, however, there are things I envisioned for myself as I was growing up. Things that I was too chicken to follow through with. In addition, I've lost contact with people (and sometimes purposely stayed out of contact with people) I had considered friends because of pettiness, hurt feelings, and just life happenings in general.
I do think 6th grade me would be pretty impressed with how my life has turned out overall. It's definitely an improvement over what I had then, but she still would kick 40-year-old me's ass for allowing fear of the unknown to control so much of my life. She'd give me a big black eye for losing contact with people that at one time meant the absolute world to me and for not doing anything to change it, especially in the instances where it became too late to change it.
I'm sorry for the downer vibes of this blog post, but I really just want to encourage you today: if someone is on your mind- reach out to them. It will probably feel a *smidge* awkward, especially if it has been a while, but do it anyway. You don't have to plan a get-together or a weekly chat session (unless you want to), but there is a reason that person has been in your thoughts and you will likely feel much better* after reaching out to them.
*Please know that I am in no way shape or form trying to encourage you to reach out to people that you have made the choice to part with for the sake of your well-being. Do not reach out to them. Write them a letter, read it to yourself, and then throw it away. Sometimes there are people that do not deserve access to you and it is okay to recognize that!
If you are comfortable in doing so, let us know who you'll be reaching out to over the next few days. Former bestie? An estranged family member? Just someone you haven't chatted with in a bit? We look forward to hearing about it.
Have a wonderful Wednesday!